Check-In Example: Baby Feeding

How’s the baby feeding?

• Some common responses to this question are:  “It has been really hard,” “The baby cries all of the time.” “It has been painful/frustrating.” From here she may start to share how this makes her feel like a failure as a mom. 

• At this point, it is important to validate her feelings by saying something like: “It must be hard and frustrating.” “So many moms have a hard time. We think it is supposed to be easy and magical because it is natural, but the truth is it can be hard.”

• If you have a personal experience with this, you can share it with her so she knows she is not the only one. 

• Let her know that “fed is best.” 

• If she is interested in continuing to try to breastfeed, inquire if she has connected with a lactation consultant.

• If she says she has low supply let her know there are teas and other remedies that can help. Also ask if she is drinking enough water. 

• Look up La Leche League and find a support close to her to whom she can reach out.

• Difficulty with breastfeeding is a big trigger for many women. Remember, the role of a Care Coordinator  is not to push her to stop or keep going. Your role is to:

  • Support her

  • Listen to her

  • Validate her feelings

  • Let her know she is a great mom although this is hard 

  • Let her know that you can help find her some resources to help